Someone Like You
- Dec 29, 2017
- 2 min read
We have reached the time of year where we will be awash with suggestions about how we can make changes for the New Year. How we can become fitter, healthier, richer etc. And so arbitrarily we have taken a specific date in the calendar and decided that on this day we will resolve to change. And the whole concept of New Year’s Resolution’s are that you are a certain way and you need to be another way. You somehow need to be better than you currently are. And there is a problem I see inherent in the whole notion. Firstly you have assigned yourself a very solidified idea of who you think you are and then you are creating another imagined idea of another self you think you should be.
The missing part in this equation is that both versions of ‘you’ are imagined. You think you are the way you are and you think you should be another way. Yet without all the concepts of your personality or the stories you have about yourself you are naturally in a state of flow. You can be a certain way one day and totally different another day. For every trait you have assigned yourself there will have been times and days when you did not adhere to those traits. So they are not 100% you. You flow in and out of those traits, each and every one of them. They are not solid. You cannot hold in your hands a personality trait and show it to me. All you can do is talk about it as though it was real. ‘I am such a …….. Fill in the blank. I am so bad at…… I could do with being more like………and less like………
When you allow for the nature of You to flow, and allow yourself to take shape from one moment to the next, not everything you will see or experience will be to your liking, but simultaneously it ceases to be a problem if you know in the next moment you will be flowing into another state. You see, we work at maintaining our personalities; we talk about them constantly, think about them a lot and then try to amend all the parts we think are unacceptable. And that is the problem with New Year’s Resolution’s. They deny the fact that you are not your personality; you are not the stories you tell about yourself. You are way more than anything you can even imagine you are. And the idea of a resolution commits to a concept you have of yourself as though it is a fact. It is far more fruitful to reflect on the idea that you are way more than the story you tell of yourself.
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